| In Bangladesh, where family bonds have long been considered sacred, a disturbing trend is emerging—elderly parents being abandoned by their own children. Once revered as the guiding pillars of the household, many aging Bangladeshis now find themselves forgotten in nursing homes, neglected in village huts, or even left to beg on city streets. This article investigates why Bangladesh’s traditional joint family system is crumbling, the heartbreaking realities abandoned seniors face, and what can be done to restore dignity to the nation’s grandparents. 1. The Disappearing Grandparents: By the Numbers Shocking Statistics ✔ 23% of urban elderly live alone (Bangladesh Bureau of Statistics 2023) ✔ 47% increase in nursing home admissions since 2018 (Ageing Support Foundation) ✔ 1 in 3 seniors reports feeling "burdensome" to their families (HelpAge International)  Case Study: The Rickshaw Grandfather A 72-year-old former schoolteacher in Dhaka was found pulling a rickshaw after his son said: "We have no space since my wife’s parents moved in." Local charities now provide his meals. 2. Why Families Are Abandoning Their Elders The Breaking Point Traditional Expectation Modern Reality Children care for parents Rising costs make it unsustainable Multi-generational homes Small urban apartments force choices Respect for elders Youth prioritizing nuclear families Key Reasons Behind the Crisis Skyrocketing Living Costs – Average elder care expenses = ৳15,000/month Migration to Cities – Children leaving villages for jobs abroad Healthcare Burdens – Dementia care can cost ৳30,000/month Case Study: The Dubai Dilemma A Chittagong couple in their 80s were left with neighbors when their only son moved to UAE. "He sends money but forgot our anniversary," the mother whispers. 3. Where Abandoned Elders End Up The Grim Options ✔ Government Homes – Overcrowded, underfunded facilities ✔ Temple/Mosque Charity – Reliant on intermittent donations ✔ Street Survival – 8% of Dhaka’s beggars are abandoned seniors (Police data) Case Study: The Railway Station Grandma For two years, a 68-year-old widow slept at Kamalapur Station until a journalist’s viral post reunited her with her daughter—who claimed she’d been "traveling." 4. The Emotional Toll of Abandonment Psychological Impacts Depression rates 3x higher in isolated elders (BSMMU study) **"Waiting to Die" Syndrome** – Loss of will to live Suicide Notes – "I don’t want to trouble you anymore" Case Study: The Poisoned Sweets A Bogura man (82) mailed ladoos laced with pesticide to his children before taking his own life. His diary read: "You stopped visiting. Now you’ll come."  5. Legal & Islamic Perspectives What the Law Says Parents’ Maintenance Act (2013) – Requires children to provide for elders Reality – Only 12 cases filed in 10 years (Supreme Court data) Islamic Teachings ✔ Quran 17:23 – "Say not to them ‘uff’ [a word of disdain]" ✔ Hadith – "Paradise lies at mothers’ feet" Case Study: The Imam’s Intervention A Sylhet imam publicly refused to lead the janaza (funeral prayer) for a man who’d left his mother in a charity home. The family took her back the next day. 6. Solutions & Survival Strategies For Families Struggling ✅ Shared Care – Siblings rotating parents’ stays ✅ Elderly Savings Plans – NRB banks offer special accounts ✅ Day Care Centers – ৳2,500/month facilities in major cities For Abandoned Seniors ✔ Legal Aid – Bangladesh National Women Lawyers’ Association (BNWLA) helps file cases ✔ Emergency Shelters – Old Age Home Mirpur (Contact: 01755-785214) 7. How Society Must Change Grassroots Movements **"Adopt a Grandparent"** – University student volunteer programs Tax Incentives – For families keeping elders at home Case Study: The Village That Cares In a Noakhali community, neighbors collectively supports 12 abandoned elders through crop-sharing and rotating care duties. Conclusion: Will Bangladesh Remember Its Roots? This crisis strikes at the heart of Bangladeshi identity. To honor those who raised us, we must: ✔ Normalize elder care discussions ✔ Support community-based solutions ✔ Remember: Today’s parents are tomorrow’s elderly Disclaimer: Cultural attitudes vary. Some families still uphold traditions beautifully. |
Andrew
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2025.04.02
